I recently got a very nice email from a person who asked if I might write to her friend, a writer who was seeking a publisher for his fourth book, and whose previous three had been rejected. This is always a delicate thing, of course – I don’t know either person. But I found myself thinking about this idea of rejection, and wrote the following in response1:
Dear XXX,
We haven't met but your friend YYY suggested I write, and perhaps give a few words of writerly wisdom.
I don't have much advice but I have a lot of commiseration. This life we have chosen is a hard one and I think it's important to keep separate two strands: there's the work itself and the reception of same. Now, it's hard to keep them separate, since the purpose of the work is to communicate something, and if, for whatever reason, no one is reading us, that makes the "communication" part moot.
But I can say that, for me, the order of operations is 1) try to do something that really pleases me, in faith that, if it pleases me, it might please someone else - and then 2) send it out to see how I've done.
The truth is, even with these high aspirations, there is always some variance between "how good I think my book is" and "what the world seems to think of it." That's where the difficulty is, I think. We did our best and the world doesn't like it enough; or, we did our best and the world seems to like it in a way we didn't intend. 🙂
Because, also, part of the process of trying to make something better is to listen open-heartedly to what the world says. Before I was able to start publishing, I was feeling a certain way toward what I was writing - feeling pretty good, working from a certain realist mindset - but the world kept yawning at what I had written. So, this "allowed" (i.e., forced) me to seek around for a different mindset out of which to write - one that ended up being more truthful to who I actually was as a person. (In short, I'd been keeping the humor out of it, as well as my growing class-awareness.)
This is the great gift that rejection affords us: it drives us down into a place of deeper and sometimes uncomfortable honesty about what we've done - about where the work came from - and might cause us to ask questions like, "Is this how I really feel?" or, "Is this voice related at all to the the person I am in my real life - the way I approach problems, make joy, entertain others?"
I guess what I'm saying is that this writing life is not just about writing and one of the gifts it gives us is a chance to better know who, at our best, we are.
So, I hope your book finds a publisher. If not, I really feel that always (even with published books) we are working, not on behalf of that book, but on behalf of the next one. In this sense, we are always, perennially, doing warm-up exercises, for that ultimate book that, we hope, we'll never quite get to.
Another thing I might like to mention, and this comes from 25+ years of teaching - we often think, when young, that good writing means “good person” and vice versa. Or, you know, good writing means the writer has the measure of life, is living fully, is fully switched on, and so forth. I always believed that as a young person.
So, from that perspective, publication can be misunderstood a sort of endorsement of one's personhood.
But, through teaching (seeing which of my students eventually go on to publish), and also from looking honestly at myself, I've learned that there are other factors at work, that have to do with 1) ambition and 2) the extent to which one’s skill set in writing intersects with what the world will bear.
Are the “best” people who've come through our program the best-published writers? Well, gosh, who knows? (Who can really judge who the “best” people are?).
But, to ask it another way: are the people with the best “measure of life,” who are “living most fully,” who are “completely switched on” - are they the ones publishing?
Well, not necessarily. The people who are best at taking their mind-product and wrestling it into something that the culture considers "a book" - they are the best-published.
It's a small but important distinction. Sometimes it's that they have the ability to cull back what they're thinking to a manageable size. Sometimes they just have a good natural sense of story. Or they want it so badly (perhaps even too badly) that they won't take no for an answer. (That was certainly true in my case.)
I can think of several incredibly bright, positive, brilliant students who lacked these tendencies, and not to their detriment, if you see what I mean. It's a bit like sports. Are the "best people" scoring the most goals? No, the ones who are best at scoring goals are.
I think of this, especially as I get older and know that, sooner or later, my ability to make books will fade. Who will I be then? Still valid? Good God, of course, one would hope so. But my ego may feel differently. And so that's what I'm working on now. 🙂
All the best,
George Saunders
This is a compilation of two separate emails, to which I’ve also made a few cuts and amendations.
Love the balm of empathetic encouragement coupled with a firm kick in the pants.
I am just starting to cobble together a small string of acceptances and happened to get one yesterday for the lone nonfiction piece I had in circulation. I had to read the email a couple of times to be sure it was an acceptance, because I've gotten so used to rejections that start with some version of "Thank you for sending us X. We enjoyed it, but..." This one was strangely missing the "but". My husband and I went out to dinner to celebrate, and he, a sailor, made this observation: "It's nice to pass a buoy now and then. You were moving before you passed it, and you're still moving now, but it's nice to go by something that's attached to the ground now and then so that you can tell you're moving."
I'll be filing this post away to reread once I'm back in the long trough between buoys again.
I would like to share a moment of personal excitement in my own writing. The recent discussion on the shifting origins of "CommComm" made me look at one of my own half-finished stories in a new way. I often start a short story with a premise that is a little bit absurd, a little bit fantastic, but treated with a completely straight face. That's a storytelling tone that has always appealed to me.
As I looked at one of the stories I'm working on right now -- a story bogged down in tedium -- I saw how I could apply George's advice: turn towards the unexpected, and trim the dialogue. It seemed to me that where I had gone wrong was that having started the story with a fantastical premise, I doubled down on the logical explanations to sell the story to the reader. My characters kept explaining their thoughts and circumstances out loud for the reader who might wonder why, for example, a giant lobster was working in a fish market in Maine.
Yesterday and today I printed out the pages of the story, got out the trusty pencil and began trimming out the ho-hum. What a difference! The story flashes like lightning now. It's surprising, but everything is illuminated with a jolt.
The earlier version of the story resembled an outfit with a pink skirt and a pink blouse, a pink hat, a matching pink belt, and pink shoes, . Yes, it all goes together, but... nothing interesting is happening. Now I've added some slightly off kilter dance moves, trusted that my reader will figure it out, and found a more vigorous pace.
This is why I read "A Swim in a Pond in the Rain," this is why I've been faithfully following Story Club. Thanks, G.S. Thanks, everybody.